Due to my wife's long term illness we have taken the decision to experience and enjoy all of life's so called forbidden pleasures or i can sacrifice my happiness and live in total fear of the spiritual moral and legal repercussions of not conforming to society's morally accepted and selfishly simplistic view of how we as individuals should live while still having to live with life's constant and frequent doses of guilt loss of love unhappiness and insufferable pain. We are shaved and desire the same.